Post 01: " You Keep Defending the Person Who Let You Down"

“They were just scared.”

“They didn’t know how to love.”

“They had a hard past.”

You turned every red flag into a reason. Every wound into a justification.

But love doesn’t need defending. And people who care don’t leave you confused.

You weren’t understanding—you were tolerating. You weren’t patient—you were abandoning yourself.

It’s not cruel to expect effort. It’s not selfish to ask for respect.

They left. And instead of accepting that, you created a softer version in your mind—one where they were kind, but lost. Gentle, but wounded.

But truth is, they chose not to stay. And that choice speaks louder than any excuse.

Stop making them the exception. Start making yourself the standard.