Post 011 "When You're the Only One Trying, It's Not a Relationship"

You initiated the conversations. 

Made the plans. Checked in when they were distant. Sent paragraphs. Stayed up late. Gave them everything while they gave you just enough to keep you hoping.

It wasn’t a relationship. It was emotional labor disguised as love.

You were in it alone, carrying something meant to be shared.

But love isn’t built by one person constantly reaching, fixing, holding it together. That’s not romance—that’s exhaustion.

You weren’t asking for too much. You were just doing too much for someone who did too little.

Relationships don’t survive on potential. They survive on effort. And two people showing up.

If you’re the only one trying, it’s not love. It’s self-betrayal.